This is going to be a ranting post, so prepare yourself.
So in my last post, I talked about how I signed up for a kickboxing class, which I am excited and nervous for. I do look forward to feeling better about myself, being stronger and healthier…
When I sit down and really think about it, a lot of my drive comes from the media and men’s perception of an idealistic female body. Sure, meant like curves, but I heard about a study or read an article the other day that men prefer an in-shape, lean woman, whereas women are okay with a guy with a few extra pounds. So, in terms of trying to find a man, since I don’t have a toned, tight body, I’m missing out on a lot of potential suitors.
I also notice, and this is probably a pretty obvious fact, but I’d say a fit, buff guy, is going to expect the same from his partner. “A couple that works out together, stays together”, or whatever that saying is. *insert rolling eye emoji here*.
And then there’s the media. Where do I even begin? The magazines, the models, the movies, All these women are “perfect”, or what we’ve been taught to believe what perfect looks like.
I see these women on Instagram, and damn, they are hot. I want to look like that. But is that normal? That I feel I need to look like all these other women? No. I see the Victoria Secret models and I wish I looked like them, but that’s impossible. A lot of them probably just have good, tall, lanky genes and who knows what they go through to keep it that way. It’s probably not a healthy lifestyle.
Women have been made to feel if you don’t look that that, then you’re not perfect. You have to look like that.
Yes, some women don’t care and are happy the way they are. I am for the most part, but I wish my clothes fit like they used to and that I didn’t feel the need to cover my flabby stomach all the time, or feel embarrassed to be in a bathing suit. We all have something that bothers us or that we want to change. We are very hard on ourselves, but I still blame the media and the world we live in.
Imagine we lived in a world where there was no tv, no advertisements, no magazine, no social media. Then there would be no pressure to try and look like anyone else. There would be no one to compare ourselves to, no idol that we are trying to become. No need to butt implants and botox in our lips, (ew, by the way).
I hate to admit, that I do want to look better. I want to be attractive and desired and I feel like my figure is holding me back. It’s a small percentage though. I really need to be stronger and more in shape because I have to many back and knee problems already, I have for years. Soccer and softball just aren’t enough.
That’s all I have to say about that.
I’ve added some articles below I came across about France cracking down on anorexia and zero sized models. Click below and give them a read!